Don't Make Promises....

So, it's been a little while since I provided an update of my dating life and I am fully aware that most of you were rooting for the Cute Boy from the wedding. Let's be honest...we all knew how that was going to turn out. Who do you think was the inspiration for the "unavailable man" blog?

Now, you're all probably wondering what happened with the Cute Boy. He reappeared in my life, said all of the things that I needed to hear and made promises (that it turns out he couldn't keep). In case you are unaware, one of my biggest pet peeves is people that make promises that they can't keep. Just don't make the promise! It's that easy. After his grand re-entrance (apology and all) we talked for a little over a month without seeing each other at all, yes it was kind of long distance, but not far enough away to justify no contact. This in itself was frustrating for me, and as much as I wanted to be understanding, I finally reached a point where this was no longer acceptable. So...what did I decide to do? I began to push him for an explanation! What else would I have done?! I am fully aware of how much men (and people in general) do not like to be pushed or questioned, or anything resembling either of those. But I didn't care, I felt that I deserved an explanation for why he had not made a reasonable effort to see me in over 5 weeks, and why, as the weeks went on he began to get distant again (horrible multi-tasker that he is). Finally, we had dinner and he shared with me that not only did he recently get laid off, but he was living at home (due to his lack of income this was his only option). All of this basically meant that he was absolutely in no place to have a relationship, with me or anyone else. Which makes sense to me. If you're pushing 30, you live at home with your parents, and you are unemployed, then you need to figure some shit out before you commit to be with someone. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. You need to be selfish in this situation and worry about yourself. I, however, am not in that place. I am in the exact opposite place.

Fast forward a bit and currently the Cute Boy and I are friends, we probably always will be and I am okay with that. This is uncharted territory for us. But he is not able nor capable of giving me what I want and I do not feel that I should have to wait for him to sort his shit out. He was holding me hostage in this weird sort of limbo where I couldn't be with him but I couldn't get over him. He was occupying a space in my life that did not allow me to move on. He then finally said the one thing that I had been needing him to say all along "I can't give you what you want right now and it's not fair to you". It wasn't fair to me. I deserved better than that, more than that, I deserved to be with someone that wanted to give me what I wanted and who was capable of it. With that statement he set me free, and allowed me to move on.

So, it's back to the pond to kiss a few more frogs ;)